The Best Pets for Autistic Children

Being a parent of an autistic child can be like walking a tightrope. Every decision you make has the potential to carry a catastrophic result. Parents have to choose wisely so their children will get the best chance at having a quality of life that will give them the best future.

So, unlike other children, when your autistic child asks for a pet, there are many things to think about. No doubt, many questions start running through your mind.

• Should I get him a pet?
• How will he handle the responsibility?
• What pet will be able to live with his uniqueness?
• How can I help him make the adjustments?
• What is the best pet for an autistic child?

There are a few things that you must consider before making your choice. Where your child lies on the autism spectrum, his unique personality, and how well he interacts with others in his immediate environment.

Before You Make a Decision

There is no one-size-fits-all answer here. Like everyone else in the world, the best pet for an autistic child is not the same for everyone. Spend some time observing your child around other people’s pets. Take your time and introduce him to several different types of animals and notice his behavior.

If your child has aggressive tendencies when around animals (pulling tails, grabbing hair, squeezing too hard), you might not want to start him off with a young or small animal like gerbils, hamsters, or small puppies. These will probably not survive the connection for very long. 

Avoid getting young animals that lack the maturity to handle your child’s impulses. Instead, consider getting an older puppy or even an adult dog or cat. Younger animals do not naturally bite or scratch, but if you’re too rough with them from the start, they may feel like it is their only way to defend themselves, and chances are your child will be the first victim.

As a rule, rabbits are very gentle but intelligent enough to take mild aggressive behaviors for short periods. You might even want to consider introducing your child to pets a little at a time. Start with getting an aquarium and a few fish. For some autistic children, these can be very relaxing and allow the child to adjust to new responsibilities without overwhelming them. It may be just the ticket for your household.

For Dog Lovers

There is no doubt that one of the most popular pets in any household is dogs. These are naturally the go-to pet for many reasons, including the powerful bond they can develop with their owners and the added security level they can provide. What parent doesn’t think of their child’s safety when it comes to choosing a pet.

However, not all dog breeds will respond in the same way to your autistic child. Some breeds are much more capable of adapting to unique behaviors than others. After considering all your options for good pets for an autistic child, you decide to go with a dog; here is a list of good breeds to choose from.

 

• Golden Retriever: This breed makes the top of our list for several reasons. Their personality is usually very outgoing and friendly, and they have an inherent need to please you. They are not only patient and loving, but their manner is quite gentle. Because of this unique combination of personality traits, they are easy to train, making them a perfect companion for a child with autism.

 

• Saint Bernard: If your child does demonstrate even mild aggressive tendencies, you want to get a dog that can take the abuse in stride, and there is none better than a Saint Bernard. Despite their enormous size, these dogs are surprisingly gentle. They tend to be stubborn at times but will usually relent when it is for the welfare of their owner. This breed is so loyal that they have often been used as therapy dogs for all sorts of special needs children. If your autistic child is rough with dogs, this could be the ideal solution.

 

• Labradoodle: This breed is an excellent cross between a Labrador, which is gentle by nature, and a poodle. Because they don’t shed like many other dogs, there is less clean-up for you. While this may not be a factor for your autistic child, it is undoubtedly a plus for most households. They are very playful and can be found in a wide range of sizes, so even if you live in a small space, you can find one that is just the right size for your household.

 

• Collie: Anyone who has watched any of the Lassie series knows how loyal and dedicated a collie can be. These dogs are eager to please and easy to train. They are mild-mannered and work very well with children of all different temperaments. These dogs are a popular choice because they are keenly aware of human emotions, so they will be able to sense what your child needs before he knows it himself.

For Cat Lovers

Like dogs, cats can be great companions for children with special needs. Just the act of holding one close to you can produce amazing therapeutic benefits for any child with autism, no matter where they fall on the spectrum.

According to one study, parents reported that cats provided an immediate calming effect on their children. A common belief among many who are not familiar with cats is that they are not as affectionate as dogs, but this is not the case for those with autism. Cats who live with even severe cases of ASD tended to be more affectionate rather than less.

That said, it is clear that not all cat breeds will work well with your child. Some cats do not respond well to constant handling, which could mean trouble for you and your child. Below is a few recommended breeds that may work well with your child’s unique needs,

• Birman: This breed is easy to train. If you adopt one at a very young age, you can even teach them to walk on a lead if you want. Because they are so loyal, you won’t have to worry about them running off or hiding when your child wants to play. 

That said, if you have an overly active child, this may not be a good fit. The Birman is a quiet cat that will stick by your child’s side while he works through his schoolwork or practice his reading. They are very effective at calming excited children and less inclined to be a part of a game.

• Maine Coon: These are not only beautiful cats; they are extremely intelligent as well. They are amiable enough to be trained quickly and are very gentle. Because of their larger size, their bodies can endure a little rough treatment, so you won’t have to worry much if your child gets overly excited with them. They enjoy playing games which opens up lots of possibilities for your child to connect. 

However, because of their long fur, they will need regular grooming and daily care. Teaching your child to handle these needs provides an excellent opportunity to connect emotionally with them. The grooming process offers a routine that autistic children can adapt to very well.

• Abyssinian: Not only is this a gorgeous cat that comes with the elegance and style of ancient Egypt, but they are also very active and fun to play with. As a rule, they respond very well to children and their antics. Because of their insatiable curiosity, they will enjoy working with your child on puzzle toys and games, and their high energy level means they will expect a lot of attention. 

However, this cat needs a child with a high energy level to keep him interested and engaged in regular activities.

• American Curl: This lovely cat has a natural curl that makes them stand out from any other cat. They are very playful and intelligent enough to engage well in challenging games. They make for a loyal friend who will bond quickly and easily with your child, helping them create an unbreakable bond. However, they don’t do well if they are left alone for long periods. They need constant interaction.

How to Decide on The Best Pet For Your Autistic Child

While deciding what dog is the best pet for an autistic child, it helps to consider what animals, especially dogs and cats, bring to the relationship.

1. They teach compassion and empathy
2. Help to relieve anxiety and stress
3. Teach your child how to make connections and build relationships
4. Help your child to suppress autism symptoms and gain better control
5. Provide trust and loyalty

Regardless of where your child lands on the autism spectrum, choosing the right pet can be the solution to many challenges parents find while navigating the world of autism. Make sure you consider your child’s personality and how he will interact. Then test the waters first, to make sure you have found the best match.

The Best Bed Pads for Autism

Bed pads have become a household staple in many homes, for those housing neurotypical children and those with Autistic children. This simple invention has been praised by many for saving mattresses, easing sleep, and providing protection. 

Although they have basic designs, there are countless options to choose from. So how do you know which option is best for your household? Follow along with us as we dissect the many benefits, styles, and sizes of bed pads and share some of our favorite options. 

Benefits of Using Bed Pads

While mainly used for incontinence purposes, bed pads have a variety of uses. So, if your child does need to use a bed pad, why not look for the many different benefits they bring? 

Let’s first break it up into three factors that may have you looking for a bed pad for your child with Autism:

Protection 

Incontinence is the number one reason bed pads are purchased and used. The fact that you are reading this means I can safely assume you are no stranger to the impossible chore of cleaning and disinfecting a soiled mattress. It’s a project that takes up most of the day. 

Thankfully, with the option of both disposable and washable bed pads, cleaning them up takes only a matter of minutes. 

Repositioning

If you are caring for a fully grown child, finding positioning bed pads with handles will be your life-saver. Constantly picking up and lifting your child can cause strain on your back and stress to your child, especially as they continue to grow. 

Bed pads with handles allow the process of moving your child to be as undisruptive as possible. Parents have found relief in the fact they can quietly move their children while they are still asleep!

Comfort  

We mean comfort for your child and comfort in the fact that you will gain peace of mind when they sleep on a bed pad. Without a bed pad, your child would be sleeping in a saturated mattress for the remainder of the night. Besides the obvious health concerns, it’s just plain uncomfortable for them.

As a concerned parent, you may frequently wake up and check on their mattress to assure they are safe and comfortable. Bed pads quickly eliminate your stress and your child’s discomfort, allowing you both to get a good night’s rest.

Different options

Now that we can see how bed pads are not only helpful but necessary, it’s time to think about the different options they come in. Of course, everything comes in variety these days, yes, even bed pads! 

Instead of making this a deterrent, let’s see what each option has to offer you. This way, you can see which option is best for your family.

Disposable vs. Washable 

If you are looking for a single-use item, disposable bed pads are ideal for you. Each morning, these are removed, thrown away, and exchanged with a fresh pad. While amazingly convenient, they are not always the most economically friendly choice.

As with disposable pads, washable bed pads are removed each morning and exchanged with a fresh pad. But they can be washed and reused again and again. While initially a pricier option, they can be viewed as an investment that will save you hundreds! Many also come in packs, so you don’t need to run the washing machine every day. Often made with cotton blends, they get the bonus of being more comfortable compared to a crinkly disposable pad. 

Handles vs. Wings

As we’ve already said, bed pads with handles are ideal for repositioning and moving your child while they are in bed. However, beware only to purchase those that are absorbent, washable, or waterproof! Instead, you can find options whose prime purpose is to move patients. These have more of a nylon texture to them and are not as comfortable as other fabric options. 

(Don’t worry, we have you covered with some of our favorite options below!)

Similar to a fitted sheet, bed pads with wings tuck under the middle of the mattress. The wings offer more protection and prevent the pad from moving around during the night. 

Choosing The Best Bed Pad Size

The most significant factor when considering a bed pad size is your child’s age and their bed. Are they a toddler or young child? Or are they a teenager or adult? For example, a queen-size bed will require a larger bed pad than a twin-size bed. 

Most bed pads don’t cover the entire mattress. For increased protection, find a pad that covers most of the bed. Covering the whole bed is especially important if your child with Autism is a rough sleeper who frequently moves and kicks. In addition, autism-proof bedsheets and a large bed pad will guarantee maximum protection and help avoid the pad from sliding off.   

Best Bed Pads For Autism

We have compiled a list of our top choices for bed pads. Follow along to see our recommendations in a variety of different categories. 

EPICA Quilted Bed Pad – Best Washable Bed Pad

This extra long pad is great for adults or children who toss and turn in their sleep and may typically kick off a pad. It’s large enough to guarantee protection and has no slip back. Especially appealing is the comfortable fabric Epica uses. As it’s a quilted material, it locks away moisture to keep both your child and their mattress dry. Also, unlike other washable options, the waterproof layer in this pad won’t break down after a few rounds in the washer or dryer. 

Medline Heavy Absorbency Disposable Underpad – Best Disposable Bed Pad

Most disposable bed pads are incredibly costly. Thankfully, Medline offers an affordable option when taking the disposable route, as each pad costs less than a dollar. 

These super absorbent pads lock away moisture and odor, allowing your child to sleep through the night despite an accident comfortably. We especially love these as they come in a variety of sizes and even have options for chairs. 

NOVA Underpad with 4 Positioning Strap Handles – Best Bed Pad With Handles

Many children with Autism struggle with sensitivity issues. Therefore, the top layer being 100% cotton makes them perfect for these individuals who suffer from fabric sensitivities. The bottom layers help to keep the mattress safe as it locks in moisture. 

At the same time, the four handles offer easy maneuvering for caregivers making this a win-win pad. In addition, the large size allows both small or larger children to be safely moved. They can also be machine washed up to 300 times, so the already affordable investment is worth it. 

Careoutfit Underpad With Tuck-in Tails – Best Bed Pad with Wings

Claiming to absorb over 9 cups of fluid, Careoutfit Underpads make leaks and pad movement impossible. 

Bed pads with wings are particularly great for your child as they almost blend in with the bed. They aren’t bulky or clingy as alternative options might be. In addition, the unique design makes it incredibly easy to change out a soiled pad in the morning. 

Goodnites Disposable Bed Mats – Best Bed Pad For Small Children

Smaller children have different needs. For example, although they have smaller mattresses, they tend to take up a lot of space as they constantly toss and turn. Goodnites bed pats cater to this specific set of needs. They are made to fit a twin-size bed and use adhesive strips to prevent slipping off. 

KANECH Mattress Pad Protector with Piping and Straps – Best Fitted Bed Pad

Many caretakers solely use fitted bed pads as they are very secure and comfortable. Kanech offers these protectors that fit twin, twin XL, and queen-sized beds. They cover the entire bed and prevent the pad from slipping. In addition, the five-layer design makes them super absorbent and easy to sleep on. Fitted pads are another excellent option if your child has sensitivity issues as the pad essentially becomes flush with the mattress. 

Which is The Best Bed Pad for You?

As is the case with most products regarding Autism, we encourage you to try out a couple of different options to see which is the best fit for you and your child.  

It’s not ‘one size fits all’ in the bed pad department, so don’t be discouraged if it takes you a few tries to find the most suitable choice.  

With a bit of patience and perseverance, using bed pads can become an easy and welcome part of your family’s nightly routine.

 

Best Adult Diapers for Women

Realizing that a loved one needs incontinence products is not easy to wrap your head around. You may feel like you are taking away their pride, self-esteem, and even their freedom. However, while they add a step to your child’s care routine, the correct adult diaper can alleviate a lot of stress and bring a level of freedom back into you and your child’s life.

Adult diapers have come a long way. In 2021, they will be more discreet and easier to use than ever before. However, finding the best fit for your family member can be overwhelming, with dozens of brands to choose from. Don’t worry; we’re here to help!

Here, we’ll break down the different styles of women’s adult diapers, what to look for, as well as our top picks for the best adult diapers on the market today.

What To look for in a Women’s Adult Diaper

Contrary to what many manufacturers want you to believe, there is no one-size-fits-all solution for adult incontinence products. Instead, there are several factors that you need to take into consideration when looking for the right fit. So let’s break it down a bit further.

Size

As with any garment, determining the appropriate size is step one. A poorly fitting diaper can cause unnecessary stress and anxiety for you and your child. In addition, diapers that are too small can cause discomfort and even pain, while an oversized diaper can easily fall off or leak after a short period.

While every diaper brand is different, generally, diapers are available in four sizes: small, medium, large, and extra-large. Sizing charts (based on height and weight) can be found on the packaging or the manufacturer’s website. 

Remember that the suggested sizes are just guidelines, and you won’t know if a diaper truly fits until it is on your child. So don’t be afraid to buy a few different sizes and return the ones that don’t properly work.

Absorbency Level

The right absorbency level will significantly depend on the severity of incontinence. For example, maximum absorbency probably isn’t needed for those with mild incontinence or those who can go several hours without an accident. 

Many families keep different diapers on hand, using a lighter option throughout the day and one with a higher absorbency at night. Having a variety helps keep stress at a minimum and comfort as a priority. 

Disposable vs Reusable

When choosing a diaper for your child, the next decision you need to make is to purchase disposable or reusable ones. There’s no ‘correct’ choice as it is majorly based on you and your child’s preference. Each has its benefits and disadvantages:

• Disposable diapers are famous for their one-use convenience. If you will be out for the day, grab a pack of disposable diapers and throw them away throughout the day without worrying about transporting the used diapers to wash and reuse. 

But, on the other hand, they sure can break the bank! The sad reality is that many families struggle to budget for the necessary disposable diapers. Additionally, if your child suffers from sensory issues, she may find disposable diapers rough against her skin.  

• Reusable diapers are known for being more environmentally friendly. Manufacturers have also created a variety of options that work for allergies, skin rashes, and skin irritations. Depending on the number of diapers needed, they are typically a more affordable option. Your child might even have fun choosing one with a fun color or design. For added absorbency and protection, many reusable diapers come with an insert for a pad.

However, we all know the downside of cleaning them out after every use. In addition, time and energy may complicate using and washing reusable diapers, especially for large families or those constantly on the go.

What Kinds of Adult Diapers Are Available?

Believe it or not, disposable and reusable diapers are not the only types of adult diapers. There are several different sub-categories to choose from within these two options. 

1. Briefs are similar to your basic infant diaper as they typically have tabs. Most people prefer these when looking for a snug fit and are the best bet for people who depend on others for their care. 
2. Pull-ups work well if the wearer is more independent. Similar to underwear, they don’t have any tabs and can quickly be pulled on and off. Several options allow you to rip the side fabric when taking the pull-ups off.
3. Belted adult diapers are a great middle-ground between a pad and a brief. Think of it as a pad, but with more comfort and better coverage. Many come with buttons for additional support and ease. 
4. Swim adult diapers are ideal for those looking for peace of mind while enjoying an afternoon at the beach. These are great if you are also looking for bowel containment. 

Our Top 5 Picks For Womens Adult Diapers

There are countless brands and selections of adult diapers, but we know cost is one of the main concerns when purchasing adult diapers, especially if your child uses them frequently. So, we tried our best to find our favorite affordable options. Here are our top 5 picks for women’s adult diapers:

1. Depend Silhouette Incontinence Underwear for Women – Best Pull Up Adult Diaper For Women

Depend’s Silhouette Diapers is one of the most versatile and comfortable options; it’s more accurately considered underwear from the support it gives. Shapewear fabric offers a close fit while being gentle on the skin. A bonus is the five different colors to select from.

1. Milisten Adult Cloth Diaper – Best Reusable Adult Diaper For Women

These cloth diapers come with velcro for easy putting on and taking off. Purchasing an extra set of insert pads will make these cloth diapers the most absorbent and extra leak-proof. When out and about, you can stash a few extra just in case. After each use, throw them in the wash, and they are ready to be used again!

1. Swimmates Disposable Swim Diapers – Best Swim Adult Diaper For Women

Welcome to a stress-free pool day! Swimmates’ latex-free swim diapers are worn underneath a swimsuit or swim shorts and feature tear-away side seams for a convenient post-swim change. They maintain minimum swelling so your child can enjoy a discreet, fun day in the water. Specialists love using these for aqua activities and therapy.

1. Prevail Incontinence Belted Shields – Best belted Diapers for Women 

This easy-to-use option works best for light to moderate leakage. Unique gel technology quickly absorbs wetness and prevents odors before they even begin, which is a major plus if your child is hypersensitive. So they get our vote for a comfortable and skin-safe option!

1. Solimo Underwear for Women – Best Maximum Absorbency Diapers for Adult Women

Five different sizes ensure additional protection and absorbency for up to 8 hours. In addition, unscented dual odor control neutralizes odors throughout the day/night, keeping the wearer comfortable. A cotton top layer keeps moisture away from the skin for added relief. The purple material also helps to keep things fun and cheery!

Choosing The Best Women’s Adult Diaper

Trial and error is often the best way to find the right option, and it may take a few tries to find a diaper you and your child are happy to use. So, don’t be afraid to buy a few different brands, sizes, and styles. 

If your child fits best in a small in one brand, the same might not be accurate in a different brand. Pay close attention to each brand’s sizing charts and styles and ask your child which they prefer!

Ultimately, the right choice should be easy and as convenient as possible for both of you. Whether your child uses them at night, when traveling, or for a few hours during the day, the perfect options are out there for your situation! 

Although it’s a challenge, the correct diaper can help relieve some of the stresses that come with supporting an adult child with special needs.

Caretaking for an adult with special needs is one of the noblest jobs on the planet. 

Almost any caretaker would agree that one of the biggest challenges is coping with incontinence. 

What can you do to tackle this difficult task with dignity? What brand of adult diapers can help you cut down on messes, awkwardness, and stress? What adult diaper brand can help your loved one feel as comfortable as they can? 

You are not alone in searching for a solution. 

Respite care is a very general term that covers a wide spectrum of substitute care. “Respite” can range anywhere from just a couple hours to a matter of weeks and can be for a range of people from elderly ones to people with disabilities.

In this article, we will be focusing in on overnight respite care for autism caregivers.

You have some options when it comes to respite care for your child with autism, but they may vary from state to state. So let’s dive in.

Why You Might Need Respite Care

One of the most common reasons for respite care for autism is simply to get a break.

One thing I want to sincerely mention is that you shouldn’t feel guilty about seeking respite care. Your child has special needs and that changes your needs as well. Without a proper respite, not only will you suffer, but if you are married, your marriage can suffer.

You need an occasional date night or a weekend getaway simply to stay sane and keep that spark alive between you and your spouse. It can kindle the flame enough to give you both the energy you need to support each other.

If you are not married, that doesn’t diminish your need for respite care. You are what holds your family together and you are the one who primarily cares for your child with autism.

If you fall apart, what will your family do?

That’s why it’s important to take care of yourself. Spreading yourself too thin doesn’t do anyone any good.

Here the most common reasons for overnight respite care:

• Periodic recharge break
• Short vacation
• Time to spend with other family members
• Someone close to you needs your help
• Your home becomes damaged by a natural disaster
• You fall temporarily too ill to care for your child with autism

What Are Your Overnight Respite Care Options?

Of course, we will have to speak in generalities to give you some ideas since the answer varies from state to state. Still, you should be able to find some good ideas for respite options for your family that you can then research further and implement for your unique situation.

In-Home Respite Care Providers

Many families opt for a respite caregiver to come to their home to care for their child overnight. This option works well for children who might struggle immensely with a change of scenery.

This respite care option for your family has its benefits, but you should be careful about who you accept into your home. You should conduct a thorough interview with the respite caregiver before giving them the job.

Ask questions such as these:

• How much experience (and what kind) do you have with autism?
• Are you willing to go through training courses?
• Can you provide me with three work references?
• Do you have any concerns?

I mentioned the training courses because many agencies offer free workshops that could be beneficial for your respite worker. Also, make sure to ask them about their concerns and listen to them closely because this will help you know just what kind of support and information you can give to the respite provider.

Pros:

• Easier for many children
• You have almost complete control of the environment
• You choose the caregiver

Cons:

• You are possibly accepting a stranger into your home
• The interview process can be exhausting

You can search in your area for an in-home care provider using a simple google search such as: “in-home respite + city name”

Out-Of-Home Respite Options

There are various out-of-home respite options available to you as an autism caregiver. These may vary wildly between states including financial support that you can get from government agencies when utilizing one of these respite options.

Here are just some options that you will need to investigate for your state:

• RHCs (Rural Health Centers)
• Weekly or daily respite programs from a community-based agency
• Group homes or residential facilities
• Sleepaway camps
• Parent co-ops

If you or your child are represented by an agency you should speak with them and work closely with them to find out what your options are available to you in terms of financial support. Otherwise, you will have to find which local options are affordable for you.

Parent co-ops are typically free to join. A parent co-op is where local families band together and take turns watching each other’s kids. A huge benefit of this is that you have the chance to get to know these families intimately and you have the knowledge that they already know how to care for children with special needs. This is also a good way to meet support groups.

An important note about facilities, RHCs, group homes, and institutions:

When it comes to group homes or RHCs, these can both be viable for you if you have financial support or some other form of support from a government agency.

You should, however, visit the home first and conduct your own investigation and interview. Some facilities are poorly run and/or poorly staffed. You can easily gauge whether or not this is the case by visiting the facility in person and asking a few questions such as:

• Are there any other special needs children present at this facility?
• What will my child’s daily schedule look like?
• What 1-on-1 activities will be provided for my child?

You should also take a look around to check for general cleanliness and engagement of staff.

Important Respite Resources:

• ARCH – National Respite Network – This network can help you find local respite opportunities by working with your state government to provide more high-quality respite options. They may even provide some financial support
• Kid’s Health – Finding Special Needs Camps – This article may help jumpstart your search for overnight camps for your child with autism
• Autism Speaks – Respite Care Directory – Simply input your needs and location and find respite care near you

Overnight Respite Care For Your Child Is Attainable

Speak with your agencies, support groups, and anyone else who might have more information regarding local respite options, how much they cost, and their overall quality. We know you love your kids, that’s why we want to help you find the best respite options so that they will be well cared for and you can take a much-needed break.